The Importance of a Superficial Clean

Sometimes I get so frustrated trying to keep my house clean and tidy that I feel like giving up completely. I am forever in the pursuit of perfection, and because I never achieve perfection I am never happy; Here is where I think a superficial clean can help. Just give your house a quick tidy, no more than 15 to 30 minutes max. Just walk though your house and have a look at it through the eyes of a guest and just hide away the mess that is most noticeable, you don’t even have to put things away properly. But what have you really achieved I hear you ask? Well, first of all the house is guest ready. There is no panic attack when the doorbell rings. Second of all there is a certain peace of mind that comes with knowing the house is clutter free and looking good. I myself am new to this technique, I used to like to doing things properly from the start, but I am slowly now realising my mistake. This superficial clean is best done first thing in the morning, so that if you want to get on with other things during the day you can. A quick tidy at the end of the day, ideally with the whole family involved, is also a good idea.

And once you are done, you may reward yourself with a cup of tea or coffee, sitting comfortably knowing that your house at least looks good, even if it isn’t necessarily clean.

How to Make a Bed Like a Turkish Housewife

Sorry I don’t actually know the answer to this question. I’m hoping someone will answer it for me as I suspect it is one of those secrets that Turkish housewives never share. I personally have got as far as working out that you can use a throw or a ‘pi-ke’ to cover the bed to make it look passable, but underneath it is still a mess. I also suspect it has something to do with the materials that are used in Turkey that help the beds look so neat, but I haven’t as yet worked out what composition is best. And don’t think that it is just a case of just ironing your sheets, I’ve already tried that, unless they iron their sheet everyday…

Every household product in Turkey is designed with the Turkish housewife in mind. There, they know that only the best will do. For example, my sister-in-law and I both have a press down toaster, the difference? Her’s is detachable so that you can wash it after use. They don’t bother making them like that in England and in all honesty. I don’t bother cleaning it after every use. I might have done though, if it was detachable.

In summary, this Turkish housewife still has a lot to learn.

Happy Housewife

Yesterday was a really busy day for me. I worked on my blog (I now have share buttons and a facebook page – yay!) I got some cleaning done.

I made my pogacas and finally got to update the pics. It’s not looking too bad, but as I am not of the selfie taking generation I do need to improve my photo taking skills. I still need to buy some pretty plates too, and yes they are still on my to-buy list. Perhaps in the new years sales… Most serious Turkish housewives will have a proper ‘dinner set’ with everything included. They’ll usually acquire one of these when they first get married. These sets are usually to-die-for beautiful, but I don’t have one. Someone get the violins out. Mind you, there is one good reason for not having one of these beautiful sets and that is how you would feel if someone was to accidentally break one of your beautiful plates; I can imagine that that would really hurt!

I also helped my children with their studying in the evening which was really productive. I read with my girls. We have now moved onto more challenging texts. I recommended that we read Jane Eyre together (my favourite classic) instead she borrowed Jane Austin’s Emma from the library, because the librarian recommended it and it was new. So we read a chapter or so every night and my poor daughter doesn’t understand a thing, so after every paragraph we go over what has happened. I think it is helping her and I am really enjoying it too. Who needs to pay for audiobook subscriptions when you have children? 🙂

So at the end of the day I crashed out on the sofa exhausted and thought, wow, I am actually happy today.

Now I really must go and clean the bathroom. I have been putting it off for days. Nothing says Turkish housewife like a clean and fresh smelling bathroom. I just spash a whole load of bathroom cleaner, bleach and water around. I then use old towels to dry. I also use these for streak free cleaning, they are also good for shiny surfaces and windows:



Right I am really am off now, that bathroom won’t clean itself – though I wish it would!



How to be a Turkish Housewife

Ok ladies, this is the one you have been waiting for. Let’s get down to the hard and fast rules of the job.

I once read that in order to be successful in life you need to use your time wisely. You need to spend 70% of your time focusing on your job at hand, but you also need to be mindful of your future target too and spend 30% of your time doing things that will help you reach this target. So if you were working you would spend 70% of your time doing your day job and 30% of your time working on achieving a promotion – the job you would like to do in the future. Makes sense so far, right? So we now need to apply this principle to housewifing.


Clean your house everyday. Ideally from top to bottom, and here is the important bit – clean even when you think that your house is already clean. Clean your house as if your were expecting guests – think of the most fussiest person you know (perhaps your mother-in-law etc) and this person is about to visit today. What do you need to clean now? See your house through their eyes…

Cook. Cook what you need for today to fill your family’s bellies.

Do you need to cook from scratch every day? 

The most successful housewives are those who have mastered the art of batch cooking. Always cook more than you need and either eat the same meal over two days or freeze leftovers for another day. Both my mum and mother-in-law do this. This way you are never caught without food, esp to offer your guests. If you can bake once a month and freeze your goodies this will go a long way in helping you to feel on top of things. If you can’t fully prepare your meals in advance then you can at least half prepare them. I freeze cooked chick peas and beans, ready to add to any stews that I make.

Laundry. I tried only doing laundry at the weekend but it didn’t work. Laundry is now a daily chore for me. Keep on top of the laundry so it doesn’t get on top of you. As this is part of the 70% I would say iron only what you need to here.


Do not skip this section if you are serious about upping your game.

I have never known any Turkish Housewife to make a list, but if you are a novice such as myself then this could help you. I would use 30% of your time cleaning the unseen areas of your house.

  • Wardrobes
  • Bedroom cupboards
  • Kitchen cupboards
  • Fridge (I think some might add this to the 70% list)
  • Extra ironing – Turkish housewives iron EVERYTHING, sheets to table clothes to curtains
  • Wash curtains
  • Clean windows
  • Sort shelves/bookshelves
  • Wipe walls
  • Rid upholstery/carpets of any stains
  • Declutter

I’m sure there are more and I will update this list as more things come to mind or if I receive any more suggestions from you my readers, remember I am still leaning too!

And remember – do as I say and not as I do 🙂

Key Point – if you are ever torn between going out and having fun OR cleaning – choose having fun!!!!!!! A happy housewife if definitely more productive.

Monday Morning Mess

If you are a working parent then you probably spend a lot of your weekend catching up with the housework and this will not apply to you.

My house is by far the messiest on a Monday morning. It’s usually a good sign, it means that we have been busy having fun as a family.

If yours is the same then you now have two options:

1 – You can make sure that you have had such a good time at the weekend that the Monday morning mammoth task of getting back on track with the cleaning won’t bother you so much.

2- Don’t have fun at the weekend and keep at the cleaning like you would normally do.

I don’t know about you but I choose option 1. Yes I love having a clean and mess free house, but there is a reason for that; it is because I want a happy and homely home for my family. I also want my house to be a lively and social place for friends and family to meet and that is a priority. There is no point in having a clean house if you are not going to use it to entertain guests. I want to create a relaxed environment for all who visit the Aydin household.

Wow – I think I have even surprised myself there, I didn’t realise how much of a Turkish Housewife I really am!

Perhaps this really is my calling.

Right I am off to get on with the housework, that we had fun all weekend no one will ever know…

The Turkish Housewife

Why ‘Turkish housewife’ I hear you ask.

Are you a Turkish housewife? Do you know many Turkish housewives?

I have the misfortune of knowing many. From my in-laws to my husbands friends wives, and they are all just brilliant at what they do. They can cook like Michelin star chefs, clean like a 5 star hotel cleaner, and serve their guests like a (errr can’t really think of the best description) Victorian butler?

The consequence of all this for me is that it leaves me feeling comparatively inadequate.

Don’t get me wrong,  I love having a clean house that I can be proud of like the rest of them. I also enjoy cooking too. It’s just that I haven’t quite reached the required standard and I don’t really know if I ever will.

I’m not done yet though, oh no.

If at first you don’t succeed, try try again.



They say that money makes the world go round and in the world of housewifing it is no different. One of the first things I would look at buying today if I had a little extra cash would be storage. If I had lots of extra cash I would buy an extension to my house and if I had even more money then I would probably go ahead and buy a bigger house. It is fair to say that we own a lot of stuff, and without the right amount of space this stuff is equivalent to mess.

Fact: My kitchen cupboards would look so much more beautiful if they weren’t ram packed.

I have about 3 cupboards in my kitchen which look beautiful inside and that I am really proud of. If you need a glass of water, please feel free to open my cupboard with the drinking glasses in. Lush. But if you need a fork, please don’t open my cutlery draw, just ask and I’ll fetch it for you. Too much stuff + not enough space = mess.

One cupboard in my kitchen contains mismatched plates. I am just about ready to get rid of these. To replace these I want to find a set of beautiful perfect plates. To buy these beautiful and perfect plates I am going to need some money. I have placed ‘beautiful and perfect plates’ on my ‘to buy’ list. I have a lot of things on my ‘to buy’ list. The plates have been on my ‘to buy’ list for a few months now. They will be on my ‘to buy’ list for a long time. I have three children, so I am not sure when or if these plates will ever make it to the top of the list. Two birthdays have just passed and next up is a residential school trip requiring lots of new purchases. I shall review ‘to buy’ list after the residential trip, but at the moment it is not looking good.

Sometimes you just have to make the most of what you have.

So dinner, for tonight, shall be served on mismatched plates.